juliorichterr:

drum-major-instinct:

okay let me explain you all a thing

if you are having sex with someone and not being raped and enjoying it you are sexually attracted to them because you are enjoying sex that is all that sexual attraction means oh my lord why is this so hard for people why are you trying to make it a thing that it’s not it’s such a simple thing

you can be sexually attracted to someone without having sex with them but once you’re having consensual and enjoyable sex THAT IS WHAT SEXUAL ATTRACTION IS THAT IS WHAT THE THING IS THAT’S HOW IT WORKS

WHY DO TUMBLR ASEXUALS HATE ENGLISH SO MUCH AND WORDS THAT MEAN THINGS

—L

“sexual attraction is when you’re having sex with someone and enjoying it that’s all sexual attraction is but also you can be sexually attracted to someone without having sex with them”

like if you’re gonna make a bullshit factually incorrect argument at least try not to contradict yourself in the process of making it

this is just embarrassing for everyone

toomanylokifeels:

No, I am going to talk about this and you are going to listen. 

Asexuals often receive rape threats because people believe that asexual-identifying individuals cannot possibly not want to have sex; even though the idea that asexuality is defined by specifically not wanting to have sex is a false one. (And I’ve explained that here) It is for this reason why I am tired of the constant oppression game people like to play with the asexual community. Are we oppressed? Are we not?

It doesn’t matter, all these arguments do is mask the fact that this unacceptable thing is happening. People actually think that “corrective” rape will change someone’s sexual identity. It starts with people asserting your orientation does not exist, and asexuality is not the only orientation to face/to have faced this. Then people assume things about yourself that “made you the way you are.” Then people move into threats territory. Then people move into the actions part. 

There is a real fear even among the asexual community that people who identify as anything other than heterosexual will be harassed and assaulted. They have a reason to be upset and a reason to be afraid, it has happened to many people before. Many people within the asexual community and the LGBTQ+ community as a whole have experienced harassment and assault. 

By denying that asexuals exist despite evidence that they in fact do, solely based on your misconceptions and political agendas that have little to do with our identity, you are perpetuating this dangerous mindset that people who do not fit into your idea of what a human being should be, need to be corrected.

My question to you is why then in situations where asexuals become upset over people harassing them, do asexuals get blamed for sticking up for themselves? Why are we not questioning why people think it’s okay to send rape threats to people who identify as such? Why are we not questioning what their problem is, instead of what ‘our’ problem is?

My right to exist and to be safe should supersede your right to say whatever the hell you want. Your words have consequences and the consequences of them should not result in people like me getting harmed. This is more than about hurt feelings. This is an attack on our entire existence.

You do not belong in our spaces. You need not voice your “opinion” on our orientation, it’s not a debatable topic and it is not a matter of conflicting opinions. The fact that you get defensive when asexuals rightfully become upset when you attack them shows that the problems lie with you and not with them. Furthermore, it is not your job to regulate what the asexual community does or says, that is something people within the community can debate and discuss critically. 

toomanylokifeels:

No, I am going to talk about this and you are going to listen. 

Asexuals often receive rape threats because people believe that asexual-identifying individuals cannot possibly not want to have sex; even though the idea that asexuality is defined by specifically not wanting to have sex is a false one. (And I’ve explained that here) It is for this reason why I am tired of the constant oppression game people like to play with the asexual community. Are we oppressed? Are we not?

It doesn’t matter, all these arguments do is mask the fact that this unacceptable thing is happening. People actually think that “corrective” rape will change someone’s sexual identity. It starts with people asserting your orientation does not exist, and asexuality is not the only orientation to face/to have faced this. Then people assume things about yourself that “made you the way you are.” Then people move into threats territory. Then people move into the actions part. 

There is a real fear even among the asexual community that people who identify as anything other than heterosexual will be harassed and assaulted. They have a reason to be upset and a reason to be afraid, it has happened to many people before. Many people within the asexual community and the LGBTQ+ community as a whole have experienced harassment and assault. 

By denying that asexuals exist despite evidence that they in fact do, solely based on your misconceptions and political agendas that have little to do with our identity, you are perpetuating this dangerous mindset that people who do not fit into your idea of what a human being should be, need to be corrected.

My question to you is why then in situations where asexuals become upset over people harassing them, do asexuals get blamed for sticking up for themselves? Why are we not questioning why people think it’s okay to send rape threats to people who identify as such? Why are we not questioning what their problem is, instead of what ‘our’ problem is?

My right to exist and to be safe should supersede your right to say whatever the hell you want. Your words have consequences and the consequences of them should not result in people like me getting harmed. This is more than about hurt feelings. This is an attack on our entire existence.

You do not belong in our spaces. You need not voice your “opinion” on our orientation, it’s not a debatable topic and it is not a matter of conflicting opinions. The fact that you get defensive when asexuals rightfully become upset when you attack them shows that the problems lie with you and not with them. Furthermore, it is not your job to regulate what the asexual community does or says, that is something people within the community can debate and discuss critically. 

asexualfactoftheday:

Submitted by breathethedownbow.

dear people who think “asexual” is code for “i am personally offended by sex and hate everything to do with it please do not ever mention it around me”

please shut up forever

everyone has their own comfort levels and they are dictated by so much more than their orientation. guess what! lots of lgb people are uncomfortable with sex and lots of ace people are not! and even within that there are varying degrees of what people are and are not okay with talking about

the only thing that is code for “i am uncomfortable with people talking about sex” is “i am uncomfortable with people talking about sex” hth

juliorichterr:

life-of-an-asexual:

effaced-ace:

alpha-timelady:

is anyone asexual or possibly asexual and willing to speak to me about it? 

I’m happy to help to the best of my abilities! I also know that ace-n-life’s askbox is always open for anyone that wants to talk about Ace life. C:

My ask box is always open.

I’m also open to questions.

my ask is always open, although my level of coherence varies wildly

omg my friends are so amazing

so one of my friends was encouraging me to join a choir she’s in yesterday and i mentioned that i’m really uncomfortable in lgbt spaces because being ace/genderqueer is frequently not regarded as real/i tend to feel like i’m encroaching on their space and today she just told me she sent them an email asking if there’s anything that can be done to make it more inclusive and also complaining that she’d heard some other people making fun of asexuality and it wasn’t cool

i still don’t think i’ll join (because even if they aren’t saying anything there’s clearly people who won’t want me there and i’m not comfortable with that) but i still think it’s really sweet of her

queenieofaces:

By SOMEONE WHO DOESN’T LIKE FACT-CHECKING

PUBLISHED: 17:43 EST, 8 September 2012

Caption: Asexuals enjoy baking, but they don’t believe in heart-shaped cookies, and thus smash them in hate-filled rage.

Roughly 1% of the world’s population is ‘asexual,’ according to experts.  This means that 70 million people feel no sexual attraction to other human beings, which basically means they hate everybody.

“I don’t hate everybody,” says some asexual somewhere (age 23).  ”I actually like a lot of people.  I’m just not sexually attracted to them.”  

As the above quote demonstrates, asexuals suffer from a dearth of human emotions.  Asexuals don’t feel the need to form bonds with other people, and enjoy living alone in cardboard boxes in the woods.  A large percentage of them (74.3%, according to a study conducted in the UK) enjoy playing sad songs on slightly out-of-tune ukuleles.

“Asexuality is caused by alien waves from space,” says Anthony Bogaert, who is in Canada and also a professor.  At least, he probably said something like that; the Daily Mail included that quote and we couldn’t be bothered to fact-check.

Experts say that ‘asexuals’ are only now ‘coming out’ so they can recruit young, untainted minds to their cause.  Their ultimate goal is to give everyone diabetes from non-heart-shaped cookies, so that people stop having sex.

“There are a lot of misconceptions about asexuality in the media,” says illegally hot David Jay, the founder of AVEN, who is so attractive it makes us sad that he is asexual.  He said other stuff too, but we were too busy ogling him to pay attention.

draayder:

artsypeach:

adrimnzr:

theslinkywontslink:

shannahmcgill:

nerdswhoviansandacesohmy:

I can’t stress the importance that this has to stop. This screencap was up on Memebase with the title “R.I.P. The Rest of Tim’s Life.”

To make matters worse, the up vote is over 1500 and the down vote is barely above 50. 

Excuse me, but what the actual fuck?!

This is a happy couple and these people have the audacity spit in the face of that.  And “friend-zone?” What?! They’re a boyfriend and girlfriend!

I can’t even with this shit.

I’m so sick of crap like this, and honestly, it’s time to let it be known that it’s not okay.

Guys, if you have the chance, please either reblog this or go to Memebase and leave a comment or a down vote. 

Deleting in a few minutes, but I just want to show my followers this so that they can possibly reblog.

because if you’re not fucking you’re “just friends” 

I don’t understand how people can sexualize girls to the point where they’re literally saying that a girl is only good if you’re fucking her, and then call girls who are openly sexual or even sexually attractive sluts and whores and all that. What are they supposed to do? How do they win? That’s not fair jfc 

wow that’s really disgusting

FUCKING WOW THATS JUST AWFUL

why are people like this

why

I never get this, like…

when you’re in a relationship but have yet to have sex there is a definite difference between that and friendship. and if you’re in a ‘friends with benefits’ thing with someone there is also a definite difference between that and a romantic relationship

so I mean. I can see why people would doubt the seriousness of a non-sexual relationship (which is still stupid as hell, but since sex is regarded as ‘taking it to the next level’ or ‘making it serious’ as an inherent quality of introducing sex to a relationship rather than a something based entirely upon individual feelings on the matter, I can see where it comes from,) but to doubt if it’s even a romantic relationship at all is ridiculous! people go entire relationships without having sex purely by coincidence! so why does someone saying ‘I probably won’t want to do this’ invalidate their relationship?

there are no new rules or standards being invented here, this is fucking ridiculous and I want to punch things so hard every time I see someone say this